If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:8-9
Dealing with our own sin can be so hard for us. We generally swing one of two ways; we wallow in how unredeemable we are or we find ways to blame others for our actions. Both responses are unhealthy and contrary to the will of God.
When we hold onto our guilt, we are essentially saying our darkness is greater than God’s light. Too often, wallowing in guilt translates to we are already doomed so why bother changing anything. When we refuse the power of repentance and forgiveness because wealready know we are too damaged to be saved, we are claiming a martyrdom that is not justifiable in light of the crucified and Risen Christ.
Blaming others is another way to avoid dealing with our own sinfulness. We either have a fear of mean-spirited punishment, lacking an understanding of God’s powerful encouragement toward goodness or we lack the strength and understanding of true sin necessary to be honest about our weakness. The devil did not make you do it. Temptation might have been laid in your path but you made the choice to act.
In either case, lack of repentance and the experience of forgiveness is a barrier to full relationship with our Lord. When we sin, God doesn’t stop loving us but we put up walls that make God feel distant to us.
The Lord will never force you to come and confess. Only you can decide to get down on your knees and pray. Try it. You’ll be amazed at how eagerly God has been waiting for you.